I understand some of the reasoning behind it...
-the humor
-realizing that you can't afford it all
-being selective
-what is most important to you
-for some "shopping" is fun..so why not turn dating into shopping
-they make it seem so simple..and who doesn't love easy & simple
So here is the example...I want you to keep it unisex though (yeah, I am girl..so I found this one first).
And though I find it fun...because really all I have in my pocket right now is $5.
It also made me think a little bit.
If it were truly this simple...wouldn't we have a store somewhere like the one some of kids go to...Build a Bear...
called "Build a Man" or "Build a Woman"?
Can you even imagine a store like that?
You walk in...one wall filled with woman, one filled with men..organized by hair color, eye color, height...you get to pick extra things out of the many bins, like "intelligence" "humorous" "romantic" "financial status".
Then you get to accessorize them, glasses, for the guys..maybe a beard (it is the new trend), oh the guys could choose breast size, butt size...oh the possibilities!
If only this were real, right?!!
Yes, I realize that we are completely drowning in online dating sites, apps, and social media.
I mean, come on..who has the time to actually go out and find someone now?
So is that truly what dating has become...shopping?
I'm not saying that it is all bad...hey I am a late 30's single mom of 3 kiddos...when do I have time to go out, to even have the possibility of a chance meeting with a guy...yeah the checkout lane at the local grocery store, gas station pump, the bank...totally perfect spots there...swarming with all the single people...haha!
So yes, I am thankful for the internet, I have had some pretty great dates & had my fair share of "holy crap this actually happened!".
Ok, so getting back to the $5..shopping for my "ideal man"...I really don't think its a fair justification.
I think every person has something to offer...but you actually need to take the time to get to know them. That is the investment.
Yes, I admit & I'm sure we all will...a first impression is always where we say "Yup, I'll give this a shot."
There has to be some sort of initial physical attraction...right? Yes, its not necessarily "shallow"...I'm being honest.
I think it just depends on how "picky" you choose to be. I could have completely missed out on some great dates if I had been "too picky".
Taking the time to actually get to know someone, investing in yourself & someone else...it's not as easy as just "shopping". A real relationship takes a little more effort.
I feel that it is truly a combination of characteristics that make someone "ideal".
And just like everyone else, I have to look at myself as well...I have great things to offer...but I'm not everyone's "ideal". So you may miss out on something if you're just "shopping".
I am definitely worth more then the $5 deal..haha!
So I think I'll learn to invest a little more...or just wait until they come up with a "Build a Man" store!
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